Well, well, well....... it happened.....she broke up with THE BOYFRIEND. What a cruel world this is..... Yes, my poor 14yrs and 3mnths old girl, had to learn that life is tough.
Shhh, I think my talk might have something to do with the break up. She said to me that she thought (before our talk) that there might have been something wrong with her for feeling trapped in this serious relationship this young. Because of our TALK she realized that there's nothing wrong with her, it is too serious for her to handle now. I told her that it is a very mature decision to make and that it might not be easy to do.
Well, she told him on Monday (two weeks ago) that she needed a break, but that she likes him a lot and wants them to be friends like they were about six months ago... hmmm Mommy is wondering.... what does THAT MEAN?!!!!! You're more than friends now... what did you doooooo???? This is all good in a dream world, but in reality.... he was furious.
The text messages started coming through straight after school on Monday - from every Tom, Dick, Harry and their brothers. All his friends were on her for breaking up. I felt like screaming obscenities, because, after all THEY ARE ONLY 14
She was 'called over' by his 16 year old sister and her friends during lunch. She obviously ignored them and stayed away, but still, the stress was almost unbearable. So, Tuesday back to school - more of the same bullying and trying to stay out of the way of 16 year olds. Tuesday night came and we had a massive break down at home.
She cried non-stop for two hours... and my girl is NO drama queen. She almost never cries... a very happy go lucky bubbly girl. I tried to make it clear that she feels like this because of all the stress and because she misses his attention, but I couldn't calm her down for two hours. Have to say she felt better afterwards.
School broke up for a two week holiday on the Friday, which is a big help and I just hope everything will have calmed down when she goes back.
We are now 2 weeks down the line and school starts again on Monday. She is still very vulnerable, like she has never been before, but she'll be okay.
I am very concerned for all teenagers, because of the age we live in. In our days, we went home after a fight at school. Now there's just no getting away from it all. It is mobile phones, MSN, Facebook, Myspace and whatever else. We decided to take all technology away this week, just to save her from it all.
I have aged 20 years over the last two week... No poop on my shoes.... I fell with my face in it.
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Ugh! Don't you feel that you want to go and find the little &*(#$ and wring his miserable neck for making your poor baby cry?
Or better - go to the source and wring his mothers neck:
a. for bringing the little sod into the world.
b. to make sure there won't be any more.
c. because you have to take it out on SOMEONE.
Good luck - lots of spoiling in your next few days I see!
What a mighty brave young lady you have. Good for her!! The only downside to this is that it won't be the first time she's cried over a boy, next time it will be him breaking up, we've ALL BEEN THROUGH IT! But the lesson here is in seeing how not to behave when it does happen. Everyone deserves to have the room/space they need to figure things out or to just move on. Right now is a prime opportunity to teach her how to handle her grief so that it doesn't destroy another person emotionally, reputationally and God forbid, physically.
Good luck and good on ya mom!
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